Divorce does not have to be ugly. That is easier said than done, but I tell you, divorce is worse than death, especially when children are involved. I would never wish for any couple to divorce after living together for years and bringing up their children as a family.
I am not advocating for anyone to remain in a toxic, violent unsatisfactory relationship. but if it ever comes to that, the break should be done decently without involving your children.
I tried as much as I could for my children not to see their father as a bad man. I took bullets, I broke down when bills were overwhelming but I made sure children never saw my tears. They have only learned about my struggles through social media when I began sharing.
My children have never known when I have money or not or seen me struggle and think I have all solutions in the world and that’s my strength. I bought them gifts just like other children with gifts. I made sure they never felt left out.
I forced every man in my life to love my children equally, but never asked them to call any of them daddy until Oyoo was born. That came naturally. They still had their biological father, Jared, whom they loved so much. They still love him and call him DAD.
It was difficult at times when they insisted they wanted to talk to him, This broke me down severely knowing he has moved on with another family. Calling him would only distract his peace and that of his family.
I took them out every time if they were not in school. We spent all our Saturdays and Sundays on the beach. We went to church once in a while. The songs sang in church would bring back memories of our family since we brought them up in a strong church environment.
I & Jared played a part in ruining our children’s happiness. We broke their hearts. I know and we all know that it can never be the same. They are broken girls but I thank God that they forgave us and we are living as a family now.
Divorce does not have to be ugly!